A Moment of Reflection

Today I opened my LinkedIn and saw a message that made me have a moment of reflection. It’s been over year since I finally made a life time dream come true: to do what I love to do by creating and developing my own company to help others to find their true potential and live a fulfilling life.

I was very excited to launch my website which I designed myself.  The process of showing my ideas and concepts was a very enjoyable experience as it was full of creativity, learning, passion and dedication. 

Just a month later after officially launching Ray of Light back in February, things started to get very difficult for many people around the world due to the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s been hard to listen to the news on a daily basis and to stay positive. Job insecurity and fear have added an extra layer of stress to many people’s lives, making them unable to manage this additional pressure. I have friends and acquaintances that are suffering from very high levels of stress and anxiety, some of whom are dependant upon medication to feel they can cope. This is affecting their lives on so many levels (health, relationships, work, etc.).

Speaking of friends, I recently had a fantastic conversation with a close friend who works is a human resources specialist.  During this conversation, she told me that she regularly deals with people suffering with high levels of stress due to experiencing difficulties at work. She always recommends finding a good ‘stress coach’ to help them manage their stress and improve their wellbeing. SADLY, she states that a very small percentage of stressed people actually take action. Furthermore, a recent UK psychologist study revealed that only one out of ten people needing professional support actually take action and get help. A common strategy is to suppress emotions, increasing reliance on alcohol, smoking, food, caffeine, etc.  We live in a quick fix society, which advertising thrives on BUT these quick fixes do not make the problem go away. These coping behaviours have a detrimental effect on the individual’s health (e.g. affecting levels of energy and motivation, gaining weight, etc.), relationship problems, quality of sleep and weakening their immune system (so important at this time!).

One of the things I’ve learned from direct experience: that we are all capable of doing what we set to do if we have the confidence, dedication and the motivation to do it. We are all capable with a system in place.

I’m very grateful for having gained experience helping people from different cultural and economic backgrounds and people of different professions around the world.  

I have enjoyed the challenges of improving the way they feel, their relationships, their health, their professional life and their wellbeing. I have helped several people to lose weight, to manage stress and anxiety, to develop their businesses, to improve their physical and mental health, to improve relationships, to stop procrastinating and improving their productivity, to get fit, to sleep better, to improve their nutrition, to improve the way they feel and to experience more joy in their work places and their homes. A big thank you to all of them for being brave to step up for what you really want in your life and for working together with me making positive changes in your lives. 

I am ready for more. Why not make 2021 the year your dream comes true for you too?

Wishing you a Happy New Year! Get off to a good start with Ray of Light Coaching Services. 

Warm wishes,

Ray Deekes
Director of Ray of Light Coaching Services

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

www.rayoflight.online

Quote of the week - June (week 4)

Stress is a normal part of everyone’s life. But each person is uniquely different and this also applies on the amount of pressure each of us can take. At the right amount of pressure we work at our optimum. We will be effective, creative, decisive, alert and stimulated. But too much pressure can lead to anxiety, fatigue, and burnout.

The prolonged effect of too much stress produces a wear and tear in our immune system. It's like getting a car and absolutely flogging it to death by the way that we're driving it. So when our immunity system gets compromised, we accelerate the progression of chronic illnesses, heart diseases and accelerate the aging of the brain.

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Quote of the week - March (week 4)

Stress is the number one cause of disease in the body yet most of us do nothing to counter its negative effects on our lives. In these difficult times if you or a loved one are suffering from stress, it needs to be addressed, not ignored.

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What is mindfulness and how it can help with these crazy times?

Mindfulness is living in the now. It is essentially about being more aware and awake in every moment of your life.

I discovered Mindfulness more that three years ago when a colleague at work recommended me a Mindfulness course for professional development. At that time I was suffering from high levels of stress and anxiety at work. Mindfulness meditation really helped me to start taking back control of my life by learning to relax and cope with stress even when things looked out of control. 

It took me months of commitment, dedication and daily practice to be able to discover peace, freedom and happiness with mindfulness. It was totally worth it as it has paid off with large dividends. Today I’m an enthusiastic practitioner and I’m very passionate about it. Mindfulness doesn’t eliminate the difficulties of living but it gives us the space to choose how to react. It prevent us from getting lost in stories about things that may or may not happen.

Our state of mind has a very powerful influence on how our body feels. This area of science is called mind-body medicine. As humans we get lost in our thoughts, they consume our attention most of the time. We're creating all sorts of stressors and anxieties about what ifs and maybes in the future or reliving stressors from the past, and that produces an inappropriate activation of the stress response (fight or flight).

The prolonged effect of too much stress produces a wear and tear in our immune system. It's like getting a car and absolutely flogging it to death by the way that we're driving it. So when our immunity system gets compromised, we accelerate the progression of chronic illnesses, heart diseases and accelerate the aging of the brain.

Being relaxed and aware is the mental equivalent of being fit and healthy. Mindfulness can be practiced any where, any time, regardless of what you are doing. The more you practice it the easier it gets. By practicing every single day it helps us to:

• Decrease stress, anxiety, and depression

• Support better regulation of emotional reactions and increases positive psychological states

• Decrease burnout

• Increase immunity to the influenza virus (flu) and coronavirus

• Improve relationships 

• Increase creativity

• Improve skills needed for interpersonal relationships

• Overcome procrastination and improve your productivity

• Improve empathy and compassion

Brain imaging studies also show that regular mindfulness practice produces growth in brain areas associated with learning and memory processes, emotion regulation, self-referential processing, and perspective-taking.

Mindfulness can really help you to keep calm, find happiness and peace of mind even in the midst of dealing with coronavirus. Mindfulness for wellbeing and top performance is one of the key elements of Ray of Light Coaching Programmes.

“I cannot thank Ray enough for the help he has given me. It made such a difference. I was really struggling with anxiety and stress. As a working mum of four children I found it hard to find balance in my life. I didn’t feel I was doing good enough. I felt overwhelmed. Ray helped me to see things differently, to slow down and to focus properly on one thing at a time. Learning Mindfulness meditation gave me the skills to have more control and to function better. I struggled to fall asleep but a quick meditation along breathing techniques has completely solved this problem. I do it every night without fail. I also use this to relax and focus on the next task when I’m really busy. I’m still learning Mindfulness and I try to apply it in different areas of my life on a daily basis. It is an ongoing process but it’s really worth it for the benefits you get.”

— Emma, England

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

www.rayoflight.online

Are you happy with the life that you live?

You deserve to be happy. Everybody does. Everybody can be! However, too many people just settle for what they have, living an ordinary and monotonous life without experiencing all the joys it can bring. If you are not happy with your life, really… truly... happy, then how about making some changes…

Of course nobody can expect to be happy all the time, but if you are not happy most of the time then it’s time to do something about it. Change can be difficult, challenging and yes it takes time and effort but with a helping hand to guide you…your life can change.

I know it is possible because I’ve done it myself. I was very stressed and unhappy in my professional life for many years and it was affecting other areas of my life. At the beginning I was in denial like most unhappy people are. I gradually realised that I could take back control of my life and re-engineer my future by learning new skills and by combining my passions with the experience that I had acquired in more than 20 years of my professional life to start my own company.

I love my new found freedom, independence and enjoy life’s rich variety. Everyday is different. No longer monotonous and now I only do what I love and am good at. I’ve never being happier in my life. It has also dramatically improved the lives of the people around me. 

There can be few regrets that are as significant as having lived your life unhappy. Often it is those with low self confidence and low self esteem who are willing to settle for whatever life gives them, not believing that they can be happy if they really want to. Every human being has the potential to achieve happiness in many areas of their lives. You are who you choose to be.

If you have not asked yourself the following questions, I suggest you do so because our life has an expiration date:

• Are you happy with the life that you live?

• Are you living an unfulfilled version of your life, which is getting in the way of your happiness?

• Are you being honest with yourself about what a good life really looks like?

• Are you giving yourself excuses about why things can’t be better?

If the life choices you made are holding you back, then it’s time to make a positive change in your life. Plan your future; don’t just wait for it to happen to you.

ABOut the author

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

www.rayoflight.online