What Is Self-Love And Why Does It Matter?

Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.

Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but also your thoughts and feelings about yourself. When you love yourself, you have an overall positive view of yourself.  It allows you to talk to yourself just like you would talk to someone you love, to be comfortable with who you are and to accept ourselves, warts and all.  Learning to being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are.

WHAT DOES SELF-LOVE LOOK LIKE?

• Saying positive things to yourself

• Forgiving yourself when you mess up

• Meeting your own needs

• Being assertive

• Not letting others take advantage of or abuse you

• Prioritising your health and wellbeing

• Spending time around people who support you and build you up and avoiding people who don’t

• Asking for help

• Letting go of grudges or anger that holds you back

• Recognising your strengths

• Valuing your feelings

• Making healthy choices most of the time

• Living in accordance with your values

• Pursuing your interests and goals

• Challenging yourself

• Holding yourself accountable

• Giving yourself healthy treats

• Accepting your imperfections

• Setting realistic expectations

• Noticing your progress and effort

WOULD YOU LIKE TO?

• Discover and let go of the limiting thoughts, fears, beliefs, feelings and behaviours that are holding you back

• Unleash your enormous potential and flow through life with brilliance by learning to relate to life in new ways

• Learn to be kinder to yourself and how to turn your inner critic into an inner coach

• Learn powerful tools and techniques to increase our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being

• Learn to accept yourself, to make time to care for yourself

• Learn simple techniques to improve your relationships with yourself and others

• Overcome self-sabotage and stop the dreadful feeling that you are not good enough

• Learn how you can make your inner voice your biggest supporter and source of inspiration

• Accelerate the process of accomplishing your goals

• Learn to be resilient in tough times by mastering your emotions

• Learn to tap into the right kind of energy and vibrations to heal emotional and spiritual trauma

• Enjoy everything that matters most by experiencing more connection, contribution and celebration

Then feel free to contact me for a friendly chat to find out if I can help you to make the most of your life.

Learn to love yourself unconditionally and I promise you will fulfil your greatest potential in any area of your life.

Peace, Love & Light,

Ray Deekes
Self-Love and Happiness Life Coach

Quote of the week - July (week 3)

YOU have the power to change anything. YOU are the one who chooses your thoughts and YOU are the one who feels your feelings. YOU are the creator of YOUR LIFE.

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Stress is a normal part of everyone’s life. But each person is uniquely different and this also applies on the amount of pressure each of us can take. At the right amount of pressure we work at our optimum. We will be effective, creative, decisive, alert and stimulated. But too much pressure can lead to anxiety, fatigue, and burnout.

The prolonged effect of too much stress produces a wear and tear in our immune system. It's like getting a car and absolutely flogging it to death by the way that we're driving it. So when our immunity system gets compromised, we accelerate the progression of chronic illnesses, heart diseases and accelerate the aging of the brain.

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Quote of the week - March (week 4)

Stress is the number one cause of disease in the body yet most of us do nothing to counter its negative effects on our lives. In these difficult times if you or a loved one are suffering from stress, it needs to be addressed, not ignored.

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A wealth of health

Developing good eating habits is very important when taking care of our health and wellbeing. We are responsible for what we eat.

Food is essential to keep our bodies going, to give us energy, to repair damage and build muscles, bone marrow and blood. A lot of research shows how food affects our mood and wellbeing.

All food contains chemicals that have an effect on our body. For example, scientists call carbohydrates (pasta, bread and sweets) “comfort foods” because they boost the powerful brain chemical, serotonin, which is involved in feelings of contentment. But the confort won’t last long. After 20 minutes it will dissipate.

If your body is in good shape you will feel better: HEALTHY BODY = HEALTHY MIND. A balanced and healthy diet is based on plenty of fresh fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds, grains, fish, egg, beans and other non-dairy sources of protein, which will provide your body with the nutrients your immune system needs. Importantly, only a moderate consumption of meat, milk, dairy foods, bread, rice, potatoes, pasta and other starchy foods is recommended as is a total avoidance of food and drinks high in fat/or sugar (e.g. junk food).

Our bodies' digestive system is one of the most important. It performs the most energy-consuming process of your entire body as it’s function is to breakdown and absorb the nutrients we eat. The more processed or chemically heavy the food, the more strain it suffers. Under normal conditions, it works hard to get as many nutrients as possible from what we eat and drink. It fuels all our body processes and keeps our organs in excellent health. So avoiding eating food that is hard to digest (e.g red meat) you can help your digestive system to save valuable energy reserves.

A poor diet has a negative effect on your life; it drains your mental and physical energy; your immune system becomes compromised, you accelerate the progression of chronic illnesses, heart diseases and the ageing of your brain. If you pumped low-octane petrol into your car everyday, how long would your car run before it breaks down?

A healthy diet will keep your immune system strong and able to fight off infections, both bacterial and viral infections, including the coronavirus (COVID-19). Experts have officially confirmed that recovery from this new virus depends on the strength of your immune system.

Our body is our most valuable asset. We only have one so better to start taking care of it. If not now, when?

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About the author

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

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