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Remember: we all get what we tolerate

During the last couple of years I have had the privilege of helping dozens of people from all walks of life, from all corners of the earth.  

My impression is that sometimes people present low-level problems because they engage themselves with little problems that are made into big things so they don’t deal with the bigger ones that scare them. 

This is not a sustainable way to deal with our lives. It could be manageable right now but the accumulation of that, the friction of that in your life, long-term, could be totally destructive.

Remember we all get what we tolerate. Sometimes we stay in jobs we hate, we stay in toxic relationships, we make decisions based on fear (not joy) and we are satisfied with being a doormat for the world.

Let me tell you something: it doesn’t have to be like this.

The controlling forces that control everything are: all your thoughts, all your feelings, all your emotions, all your beliefs and values.  

It’s essential to your personal evolution to evaluate these forces on a regular basis to align your life with your core values.

Your core values are the guiding principles of your life that help you to determine your behaviour, words, and actions.  Living in harmony with your core values creates a fertile environment for happiness, peace of mind, and success, because you are living authentically without confusion, guilt or shame. Even small, incremental changes to align your life with your values will create a positive shift in your feelings and attitude. 

When you feel deep in your heart that you do the right thing. This level of authenticity will lead you to a rich and fulfilling life.

You can have the life you want, the way you deserve it. Sculpt yourself into what you are capable of being as opposed to whatever life and circumstance has provided you the opportunity to show up as. Instead of life leading you astray, take control and lead your life back on track.

As a Life Coach, I really love to see people light up. This happens when they realise they own their selves again and can see how to become the very best they can possibly be. The happiest they can be. 

I don’t believe people really feel fulfilled staying where they are. Life should never be static. Change is refreshing and keeps sparks alight. The purpose of life is growth. Progress equals happiness. 

Personal, social, emotional or spiritual growth leads to feeling happier in your life. You give a better version of you to your children, to your wife, to your parents, to your friends, to your colleagues.

Sometimes in life we want to make changes but something seems to holds us back. So be honest with yourself and ask:

  • What is an extraordinary life for you? 

  • Do you have a dream that should be your reality by now? 

  • Are you hungry for growth? 

  • Are you ready to uncover who you really are and what you’re really about at this stage in your life?

Today I invite you to take the first step. To live life to the fullest—to make your life how YOU want it to be.  

If you are still reading these words it’s because you really want to make a positive change in your life. Right here, right now! This is the moment you stop hesitating…stop holding back and show up fully for what you want. The moment you say YES to YOU.

What have you got to lose by booking your FREE Discovery Session today and make YOU your New Year resolution?

A Moment of Reflection

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Today I opened my LinkedIn and saw a message that made me have a moment of reflection. It’s been over year since I finally made a life time dream come true: to do what I love to do by creating and developing my own company to help others to find their true potential and live a fulfilling life.

I was very excited to launch my website which I designed myself.  The process of showing my ideas and concepts was a very enjoyable experience as it was full of creativity, learning, passion and dedication. 

Just a month later after officially launching Ray of Light back in February, things started to get very difficult for many people around the world due to the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s been hard to listen to the news on a daily basis and to stay positive. Job insecurity and fear have added an extra layer of stress to many people’s lives, making them unable to manage this additional pressure. I have friends and acquaintances that are suffering from very high levels of stress and anxiety, some of whom are dependant upon medication to feel they can cope. This is affecting their lives on so many levels (health, relationships, work, etc.).

Speaking of friends, I recently had a fantastic conversation with a close friend who works is a human resources specialist.  During this conversation, she told me that she regularly deals with people suffering with high levels of stress due to experiencing difficulties at work. She always recommends finding a good ‘stress coach’ to help them manage their stress and improve their wellbeing. SADLY, she states that a very small percentage of stressed people actually take action. Furthermore, a recent UK psychologist study revealed that only one out of ten people needing professional support actually take action and get help. A common strategy is to suppress emotions, increasing reliance on alcohol, smoking, food, caffeine, etc.  We live in a quick fix society, which advertising thrives on BUT these quick fixes do not make the problem go away. These coping behaviours have a detrimental effect on the individual’s health (e.g. affecting levels of energy and motivation, gaining weight, etc.), relationship problems, quality of sleep and weakening their immune system (so important at this time!).

One of the things I’ve learned from direct experience: that we are all capable of doing what we set to do if we have the confidence, dedication and the motivation to do it. We are all capable with a system in place.

I’m very grateful for having gained experience helping people from different cultural and economic backgrounds and people of different professions around the world.  

I have enjoyed the challenges of improving the way they feel, their relationships, their health, their professional life and their wellbeing. I have helped several people to lose weight, to manage stress and anxiety, to develop their businesses, to improve their physical and mental health, to improve relationships, to stop procrastinating and improving their productivity, to get fit, to sleep better, to improve their nutrition, to improve the way they feel and to experience more joy in their work places and their homes. A big thank you to all of them for being brave to step up for what you really want in your life and for working together with me making positive changes in your lives. 

I am ready for more. Why not make 2021 the year your dream comes true for you too?

Wishing you a Happy New Year! Get off to a good start with Ray of Light Coaching Services. 

Warm wishes,

Ray Deekes
Director of Ray of Light Coaching Services

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

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Quote of the week - July (week 4)

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YOU are the master and the creator of YOUR LIFE. YOU are the only one who is capable of doing the things that are needed to reach YOUR DREAMS.

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Quote of the week - July (week 3)

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YOU have the power to change anything. YOU are the one who chooses your thoughts and YOU are the one who feels your feelings. YOU are the creator of YOUR LIFE.


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Quote of the week - May (week 4)

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Change is a constant part of our lives and it happens whether you welcome it or fight against it. You have to only examine your life in the previous six or twelve months to see changes, maybe small and subtle or big and spectacular, some things improving, some things not and you don’t have to be clairvoyant to see that the same process lies ahead of you. The important point is how to make the process of change work beneficially for your rather than counterproductively.

Ray of Light’s Coaching Programmes are designed to empower Businesses, Organisations and Individuals by putting YOU in the drivers seat in the face of change. 

Quote of the week - March (week 5)

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Thoughts are very powerful. When mixed with purpose, determination, persistence and a burning desire, they make you unstoppable.

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