Love is The Answer To Everything. Always

I’m incredibly excited to announce to the world that my book is out now!

It’s been two years since I started the wonderful journey of writing this book to help, to inspire and give hope to others.

Hand on heart, I can say ‘Love is the Answer: Wake Up Who You Really Are, Embrace Your Truth, and Live the Life You Were Meant To Live’ is, without a doubt, the book I was born to write. It is by far my greatest achievement and one of the most beautiful experiences of my entire life. I’m deeply grateful for the privilege of being able to share my soul story to the world.

Discovering our true selves is the most important journey in our lives. It is a journey of awakening we are all invited to go on.‘Love is the Answer: Wake Up Who You Really Are, Embrace Your Truth, and Live the Life You Were Meant To Live’ is a self-help book that provides inspiration and a road map for spiritual seekers to embark on their own journey to find the answers to their questions for better living.

I know in my heart this book will fall into the hands of people who are ready to open their hearts enough to turn all its pages.

Available at: Booklocker.com, BarneandNoble.com, Walmart.com and Amazon

Are you ready to remember who you really are and why you are here?

I would be very grateful if you can recommend this book to someone you love that may be interested to start or expand on their spiritual journey. From my heart to your heartI send humble gratitude.

NAMASTE

What Is Self-Love And Why Does It Matter?

Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.

Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but also your thoughts and feelings about yourself. When you love yourself, you have an overall positive view of yourself.  It allows you to talk to yourself just like you would talk to someone you love, to be comfortable with who you are and to accept ourselves, warts and all.  Learning to being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are.

WHAT DOES SELF-LOVE LOOK LIKE?

• Saying positive things to yourself

• Forgiving yourself when you mess up

• Meeting your own needs

• Being assertive

• Not letting others take advantage of or abuse you

• Prioritising your health and wellbeing

• Spending time around people who support you and build you up and avoiding people who don’t

• Asking for help

• Letting go of grudges or anger that holds you back

• Recognising your strengths

• Valuing your feelings

• Making healthy choices most of the time

• Living in accordance with your values

• Pursuing your interests and goals

• Challenging yourself

• Holding yourself accountable

• Giving yourself healthy treats

• Accepting your imperfections

• Setting realistic expectations

• Noticing your progress and effort

WOULD YOU LIKE TO?

• Discover and let go of the limiting thoughts, fears, beliefs, feelings and behaviours that are holding you back

• Unleash your enormous potential and flow through life with brilliance by learning to relate to life in new ways

• Learn to be kinder to yourself and how to turn your inner critic into an inner coach

• Learn powerful tools and techniques to increase our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being

• Learn to accept yourself, to make time to care for yourself

• Learn simple techniques to improve your relationships with yourself and others

• Overcome self-sabotage and stop the dreadful feeling that you are not good enough

• Learn how you can make your inner voice your biggest supporter and source of inspiration

• Accelerate the process of accomplishing your goals

• Learn to be resilient in tough times by mastering your emotions

• Learn to tap into the right kind of energy and vibrations to heal emotional and spiritual trauma

• Enjoy everything that matters most by experiencing more connection, contribution and celebration

Then feel free to contact me for a friendly chat to find out if I can help you to make the most of your life.

Learn to love yourself unconditionally and I promise you will fulfil your greatest potential in any area of your life.

Peace, Love & Light,

Ray Deekes
Self-Love and Happiness Life Coach

A New Beginning...

I’m back everybody! It’s been a while since I last wrote an article for my blog. I am here in response to the countless clients, friends and relatives who have been asking what I’ve been up to. Well here it is! Over the last 19 months I’ve been entirely focused on finishing my first book. Woo Hooo. It’s been a journey filled with beauty and excitement, mystery and drama; soul expansion and golden nugget discoveries and most of all, profound moments of pure wonder and humble amazement.

These last few months have left me full of joy and gratitude. With the book almost ready to be shared with you all, I return to you refreshed and fulfilled and raring to start this new chapter of my life. Let the ride continue.

Many of my closest friends have been asking me how to describe the experience of writing a book. Some of them had the idea that it would involve experiencing tension and frustration caused by mental blocks. To be completely honest with you, it’s been one of the most intimate experiences of my life as many hours were spent in either silent reflection or in meditation or in silent typing and editing. Never before have I spent so much time with myself.  It was never a life long dream or goal of mine to write a book, however two years ago without much warning my life’s path took a sudden and dramatic detour.  I enjoyed a life changing experience and since this blissful day, during which my soul made a promise that my physical self would keep, an omnipresent spiritual force has undeniably guided me. With my chakras aligned and intuition attuned, my higher self reassured me I could simply surrender to this spiritual guidance and I so I did. Pausing my professional life, I chose to dedicate all my energy to fulfilling my promise. When I was not typing, I was reading and delving further into the truth. I have had lots of fun and through me, this spiritual force has written the book to be shared with you all in just under 12 months.  

In the beginning I was not sure how I was going to publish this book. I knew it would be published, someway somehow, but I didn’t exactly know how or when.  

I of course approached one of my favourite traditional publishers in the UK as part of their annual book competition. If selected from the several dozen other novice writers competing, they would offer a book contract, prize money for book marketing and agree to publish my book two years later. At the time I thought it sounded like a great opportunity.  Hiring the services of a well-established and professional company, I gave it my best shot to put together the best book proposal I could. What an intense six months process! It definitely helped me up my game. I was pretty sure they would give me an opportunity but fortunately I was not chosen. Yes! That is what I said. It’s not a typo. Fortunately I was not chosen. Yes of course it took me few days to see that despite my best efforts and spending the last of my savings, it was not my path to walk. The Universe had other plans for me. It was a test of trust. I surrendered once again.

Feeling a little unsettled and doubtful I took a break and forgot all about the book for a couple of months choosing instead to enjoy the summer months with my family. Then one day, I felt the urge to read through my manuscript and with fresh eyes, I devoured it from beginning to end, making some much needed improvements to the text. That is when I accepted it was not ready when I had presented it for the book competition. It was when I also realised I would not give up. I know in my heart that the powerful messages in this book deserve to land in the hands of so many people around the world.

Reignited, I felt this force taking over the show once more and I started to search for different ways to publish my book. I even sold my beloved campervan to finance the completion of this book. One day while reading one of my favourites authors I saw the name of an independent publisher from a different continent. I couldn’t help but check their website and my intuition said: ‘do not hesitate and send them your manuscript now’. So I did. Some days later the publisher’s CEO replied directly to me announcing that my manuscript had been accepted and, if I decided to work with them, that the book would be published within the next three months. Wooo Hooo. I couldn’t believe my eyes!  

As if that wasn’t enough good news, I also have full control over the publication, which would not have been the case if I had been chosen as winner of the book competition. There are no coincidences, only synchronicity in the Universe. This is clearly my path to walk and I’m so happy it worked out like this. I feel free to do things my way. I feel free to follow my heart all the way. WHICH IS WHAT THE BOOK IS ALL ABOUT!

It is not a coincidence you are reading this article, so please subscribe to my bi-weekly blog to keep you updated on the publication of what I hope will become a cherished book for you. Ok Ok ! I hear you say!  What is the booked called the Ray??

 ‘Love is the Answer: Wake Up Who You Really Are And Live the Live You are Meant to Live’.

It’ll be ready for Christmas for you to stick it in ya stocking!

Peace, Love & Light,

Ray Deekes
Self-Love and Happiness Life Coach

Remember: we all get what we tolerate

During the last couple of years I have had the privilege of helping dozens of people from all walks of life, from all corners of the earth.  

My impression is that sometimes people present low-level problems because they engage themselves with little problems that are made into big things so they don’t deal with the bigger ones that scare them. 

This is not a sustainable way to deal with our lives. It could be manageable right now but the accumulation of that, the friction of that in your life, long-term, could be totally destructive.

Remember we all get what we tolerate. Sometimes we stay in jobs we hate, we stay in toxic relationships, we make decisions based on fear (not joy) and we are satisfied with being a doormat for the world.

Let me tell you something: it doesn’t have to be like this.

The controlling forces that control everything are: all your thoughts, all your feelings, all your emotions, all your beliefs and values.  

It’s essential to your personal evolution to evaluate these forces on a regular basis to align your life with your core values.

Your core values are the guiding principles of your life that help you to determine your behaviour, words, and actions.  Living in harmony with your core values creates a fertile environment for happiness, peace of mind, and success, because you are living authentically without confusion, guilt or shame. Even small, incremental changes to align your life with your values will create a positive shift in your feelings and attitude. 

When you feel deep in your heart that you do the right thing. This level of authenticity will lead you to a rich and fulfilling life.

You can have the life you want, the way you deserve it. Sculpt yourself into what you are capable of being as opposed to whatever life and circumstance has provided you the opportunity to show up as. Instead of life leading you astray, take control and lead your life back on track.

As a Life Coach, I really love to see people light up. This happens when they realise they own their selves again and can see how to become the very best they can possibly be. The happiest they can be. 

I don’t believe people really feel fulfilled staying where they are. Life should never be static. Change is refreshing and keeps sparks alight. The purpose of life is growth. Progress equals happiness. 

Personal, social, emotional or spiritual growth leads to feeling happier in your life. You give a better version of you to your children, to your wife, to your parents, to your friends, to your colleagues.

Sometimes in life we want to make changes but something seems to holds us back. So be honest with yourself and ask:

• What is an extraordinary life for you? 

• Do you have a dream that should be your reality by now? 

• Are you hungry for growth? 

• Are you ready to uncover who you really are and what you’re really about at this stage in your life?

Today I invite you to take the first step. To live life to the fullest—to make your life how YOU want it to be.  

If you are still reading these words it’s because you really want to make a positive change in your life. Right here, right now! This is the moment you stop hesitating…stop holding back and show up fully for what you want. The moment you say YES to YOU.

What have you got to lose by booking your FREE Discovery Session today and make YOU your New Year resolution?

What is True Success?

Throughout my professional life I’ve talked with hundreds of people around the world from all walks of life and I’ve listened to their life stories. My impression is that only a small proportion of these people were “truly successful”, by this I mean that they were truly happy, fulfilled, at peace and financially secure. 

Some were rich in their wealth yet poor in their health due to lifestyle choices. Others had many achievements but were unhappy. Some, including myself, dedicated many years of their lives to a job they actually hated. Therefore, their unhappiness stemmed from lying to themselves. Not listening to their inner voice. Some worked really hard but never seemed to see financial success. Others had great careers but at the cost of broken homes.  

Be honest with yourself – Are you living a HAPPY life or a life to look happy around others? 

Do you love yourself enough to ask yourself one simple question? Which is always…….. “In this moment am I happy?” And are you brave enough to listen to yourself reply? 

Being true to your own ideas and values brings inner peace, which is the foundation of true success.

A Moment of Reflection

Today I opened my LinkedIn and saw a message that made me have a moment of reflection. It’s been over year since I finally made a life time dream come true: to do what I love to do by creating and developing my own company to help others to find their true potential and live a fulfilling life.

I was very excited to launch my website which I designed myself.  The process of showing my ideas and concepts was a very enjoyable experience as it was full of creativity, learning, passion and dedication. 

Just a month later after officially launching Ray of Light back in February, things started to get very difficult for many people around the world due to the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s been hard to listen to the news on a daily basis and to stay positive. Job insecurity and fear have added an extra layer of stress to many people’s lives, making them unable to manage this additional pressure. I have friends and acquaintances that are suffering from very high levels of stress and anxiety, some of whom are dependant upon medication to feel they can cope. This is affecting their lives on so many levels (health, relationships, work, etc.).

Speaking of friends, I recently had a fantastic conversation with a close friend who works is a human resources specialist.  During this conversation, she told me that she regularly deals with people suffering with high levels of stress due to experiencing difficulties at work. She always recommends finding a good ‘stress coach’ to help them manage their stress and improve their wellbeing. SADLY, she states that a very small percentage of stressed people actually take action. Furthermore, a recent UK psychologist study revealed that only one out of ten people needing professional support actually take action and get help. A common strategy is to suppress emotions, increasing reliance on alcohol, smoking, food, caffeine, etc.  We live in a quick fix society, which advertising thrives on BUT these quick fixes do not make the problem go away. These coping behaviours have a detrimental effect on the individual’s health (e.g. affecting levels of energy and motivation, gaining weight, etc.), relationship problems, quality of sleep and weakening their immune system (so important at this time!).

One of the things I’ve learned from direct experience: that we are all capable of doing what we set to do if we have the confidence, dedication and the motivation to do it. We are all capable with a system in place.

I’m very grateful for having gained experience helping people from different cultural and economic backgrounds and people of different professions around the world.  

I have enjoyed the challenges of improving the way they feel, their relationships, their health, their professional life and their wellbeing. I have helped several people to lose weight, to manage stress and anxiety, to develop their businesses, to improve their physical and mental health, to improve relationships, to stop procrastinating and improving their productivity, to get fit, to sleep better, to improve their nutrition, to improve the way they feel and to experience more joy in their work places and their homes. A big thank you to all of them for being brave to step up for what you really want in your life and for working together with me making positive changes in your lives. 

I am ready for more. Why not make 2021 the year your dream comes true for you too?

Wishing you a Happy New Year! Get off to a good start with Ray of Light Coaching Services. 

Warm wishes,

Ray Deekes
Director of Ray of Light Coaching Services

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

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