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A New Beginning...

I’m back everybody! It’s been a while since I last wrote an article for my blog. I am here in response to the countless clients, friends and relatives who have been asking what I’ve been up to. Well here it is! Over the last 19 months I’ve been entirely focused on finishing my first book. Woo Hooo. It’s been a journey filled with beauty and excitement, mystery and drama; soul expansion and golden nugget discoveries and most of all, profound moments of pure wonder and humble amazement.

These last few months have left me full of joy and gratitude. With the book almost ready to be shared with you all, I return to you refreshed and fulfilled and raring to start this new chapter of my life. Let the ride continue.

Many of my closest friends have been asking me how to describe the experience of writing a book. Some of them had the idea that it would involve experiencing tension and frustration caused by mental blocks. To be completely honest with you, it’s been one of the most intimate experiences of my life as many hours were spent in either silent reflection or in meditation or in silent typing and editing. Never before have I spent so much time with myself.  It was never a life long dream or goal of mine to write a book, however two years ago without much warning my life’s path took a sudden and dramatic detour.  I enjoyed a life changing experience and since this blissful day, during which my soul made a promise that my physical self would keep, an omnipresent spiritual force has undeniably guided me. With my chakras aligned and intuition attuned, my higher self reassured me I could simply surrender to this spiritual guidance and I so I did. Pausing my professional life, I chose to dedicate all my energy to fulfilling my promise. When I was not typing, I was reading and delving further into the truth. I have had lots of fun and through me, this spiritual force has written the book to be shared with you all in just under 12 months.  

In the beginning I was not sure how I was going to publish this book. I knew it would be published, someway somehow, but I didn’t exactly know how or when.  

I of course approached one of my favourite traditional publishers in the UK as part of their annual book competition. If selected from the several dozen other novice writers competing, they would offer a book contract, prize money for book marketing and agree to publish my book two years later. At the time I thought it sounded like a great opportunity.  Hiring the services of a well-established and professional company, I gave it my best shot to put together the best book proposal I could. What an intense six months process! It definitely helped me up my game. I was pretty sure they would give me an opportunity but fortunately I was not chosen. Yes! That is what I said. It’s not a typo. Fortunately I was not chosen. Yes of course it took me few days to see that despite my best efforts and spending the last of my savings, it was not my path to walk. The Universe had other plans for me. It was a test of trust. I surrendered once again.

Feeling a little unsettled and doubtful I took a break and forgot all about the book for a couple of months choosing instead to enjoy the summer months with my family. Then one day, I felt the urge to read through my manuscript and with fresh eyes, I devoured it from beginning to end, making some much needed improvements to the text. That is when I accepted it was not ready when I had presented it for the book competition. It was when I also realised I would not give up. I know in my heart that the powerful messages in this book deserve to land in the hands of so many people around the world.

Reignited, I felt this force taking over the show once more and I started to search for different ways to publish my book. I even sold my beloved campervan to finance the completion of this book. One day while reading one of my favourites authors I saw the name of an independent publisher from a different continent. I couldn’t help but check their website and my intuition said: ‘do not hesitate and send them your manuscript now’. So I did. Some days later the publisher’s CEO replied directly to me announcing that my manuscript had been accepted and, if I decided to work with them, that the book would be published within the next three months. Wooo Hooo. I couldn’t believe my eyes!  

As if that wasn’t enough good news, I also have full control over the publication, which would not have been the case if I had been chosen as winner of the book competition. There are no coincidences, only synchronicity in the Universe. This is clearly my path to walk and I’m so happy it worked out like this. I feel free to do things my way. I feel free to follow my heart all the way. WHICH IS WHAT THE BOOK IS ALL ABOUT!

It is not a coincidence you are reading this article, so please subscribe to my bi-weekly blog to keep you updated on the publication of what I hope will become a cherished book for you. Ok Ok ! I hear you say!  What is the booked called the Ray??

 ‘Love is the Answer: Wake Up Who You Really Are And Live the Live You are Meant to Live’.

It’ll be ready for Christmas for you to stick it in ya stocking!

Peace, Love & Light,

Ray Deekes
Self-Love and Happiness Life Coach

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YOU have the power to change anything. YOU are the one who chooses your thoughts and YOU are the one who feels your feelings. YOU are the creator of YOUR LIFE.


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Are you happy with the life that you live?

You deserve to be happy. Everybody does. Everybody can be! However, too many people just settle for what they have, living an ordinary and monotonous life without experiencing all the joys it can bring. If you are not happy with your life, really… truly... happy, then how about making some changes…

Of course nobody can expect to be happy all the time, but if you are not happy most of the time then it’s time to do something about it. Change can be difficult, challenging and yes it takes time and effort but with a helping hand to guide you…your life can change.

I know it is possible because I’ve done it myself. I was very stressed and unhappy in my professional life for many years and it was affecting other areas of my life. At the beginning I was in denial like most unhappy people are. I gradually realised that I could take back control of my life and re-engineer my future by learning new skills and by combining my passions with the experience that I had acquired in more than 20 years of my professional life to start my own company.

I love my new found freedom, independence and enjoy life’s rich variety. Everyday is different. No longer monotonous and now I only do what I love and am good at. I’ve never being happier in my life. It has also dramatically improved the lives of the people around me. 

There can be few regrets that are as significant as having lived your life unhappy. Often it is those with low self confidence and low self esteem who are willing to settle for whatever life gives them, not believing that they can be happy if they really want to. Every human being has the potential to achieve happiness in many areas of their lives. You are who you choose to be.

If you have not asked yourself the following questions, I suggest you do so because our life has an expiration date:

  • Are you happy with the life that you live?

  • Are you living an unfulfilled version of your life, which is getting in the way of your happiness?

  • Are you being honest with yourself about what a good life really looks like?

  • Are you giving yourself excuses about why things can’t be better?

If the life choices you made are holding you back, then it’s time to make a positive change in your life. Plan your future; don’t just wait for it to happen to you.

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ABOut the author

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

www.rayoflight.online