What Is Self-Love And Why Does It Matter?

Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.

Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but also your thoughts and feelings about yourself. When you love yourself, you have an overall positive view of yourself.  It allows you to talk to yourself just like you would talk to someone you love, to be comfortable with who you are and to accept ourselves, warts and all.  Learning to being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are.

WHAT DOES SELF-LOVE LOOK LIKE?

• Saying positive things to yourself

• Forgiving yourself when you mess up

• Meeting your own needs

• Being assertive

• Not letting others take advantage of or abuse you

• Prioritising your health and wellbeing

• Spending time around people who support you and build you up and avoiding people who don’t

• Asking for help

• Letting go of grudges or anger that holds you back

• Recognising your strengths

• Valuing your feelings

• Making healthy choices most of the time

• Living in accordance with your values

• Pursuing your interests and goals

• Challenging yourself

• Holding yourself accountable

• Giving yourself healthy treats

• Accepting your imperfections

• Setting realistic expectations

• Noticing your progress and effort

WOULD YOU LIKE TO?

• Discover and let go of the limiting thoughts, fears, beliefs, feelings and behaviours that are holding you back

• Unleash your enormous potential and flow through life with brilliance by learning to relate to life in new ways

• Learn to be kinder to yourself and how to turn your inner critic into an inner coach

• Learn powerful tools and techniques to increase our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being

• Learn to accept yourself, to make time to care for yourself

• Learn simple techniques to improve your relationships with yourself and others

• Overcome self-sabotage and stop the dreadful feeling that you are not good enough

• Learn how you can make your inner voice your biggest supporter and source of inspiration

• Accelerate the process of accomplishing your goals

• Learn to be resilient in tough times by mastering your emotions

• Learn to tap into the right kind of energy and vibrations to heal emotional and spiritual trauma

• Enjoy everything that matters most by experiencing more connection, contribution and celebration

Then feel free to contact me for a friendly chat to find out if I can help you to make the most of your life.

Learn to love yourself unconditionally and I promise you will fulfil your greatest potential in any area of your life.

Peace, Love & Light,

Ray Deekes
Self-Love and Happiness Life Coach

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Change is a constant part of our lives and it happens whether you welcome it or fight against it. You have to only examine your life in the previous six or twelve months to see changes, maybe small and subtle or big and spectacular, some things improving, some things not and you don’t have to be clairvoyant to see that the same process lies ahead of you. The important point is how to make the process of change work beneficially for your rather than counterproductively.

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What can you do being stuck at home during the coronavirus outbreak?

The best thing you can do during these difficult times being stuck at home is to talk to the one that is inside you. To connect with yourself now that you don’t have all the distractions we normally have everyday.

This is the best moment to meditate. To practice gratitude. We all have many things to be grateful for in our lives; the love of our loved ones, our health, one more day of life on this beautiful planet, listening to the birds singing, looking at the sky in the morning or the stars at night, to feel the sun on our face, on our skin (even through a window), to hear our children tells that they love us, to see their smiles and hear their giggles.  

Many people feel lonely in these times. The worst solitude is the one we have inside us. Make friends with yourself. Enjoy your own company. We can always relive happy moments when we remember them. Even with loved ones that are no longer with us.  

If you love life, then ask yourself how you want to spend your life. Do we spend it paying bills, buying things we don’t really need or in actually living it? If you love life then spend it really living life to the fullest. 

And what is living? It’s trying to feel happy. It’s to spend most of our time doing the things that make us feel alive, things that gratify us with out causing harm to others. Remember that life has an expiration day. Let’s use this precious time to reconnect with ourselves. As long as you have a reason to live and to fight for your dreams you will find a way to move forward. We all are going to leave this world at some point. What we take with us and what we leave behind for our loved ones are memories of how we lived. That is why we should make the most of our limited time in this beautiful world to make our lives extraordinary. 

The enforced lockdown offers each and every one of you a unique opportunity to reconnect with your love ones, to learn to connect with yourself and to reflect on your life. Where you have been and where you are going. To learn, to grow and to improve. Every day is truly a gift so don’t waste it. Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.  

LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST. MAKE IT A MASTERPIECE.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ray Deekes is a firestarter. He is passionate about inspiring and empowering others to reach their true potential and to live a fulfilling life.

He brings a mix of stress management acumen and understanding on peak performance, health & wellbeing learnt from his studies in Stress Management, Health & Wellbeing (Centre for Stress Management, London) as well over 20 years of experience in high demanding jobs working with top executives from around the world and over 30 years of sports practice. Ray is also a enthusiastic practitioner of Mindfulness (Monash University) and very passionate about promoting healthy eating (University of Aberdeen).

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